How middle-aged women can have a healthy sex life

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There’s a saying that describes the sexual needs of middle-aged women: “Thirty like a wolf, forty like a tiger.” In reality, most women, even in middle age, maintain a good sex drive and sexual ability if they are in good health. Their desires are not much lower than those of young girls. Many women even experience an increased libido compared to their youth, entering a “second honeymoon period.”

1. Actively pursue a healthy sex life

　　Actively pursue a fulfilling sex life based on your own libido and sexual capabilities. Middle-aged women should maintain sexual activity about once a week, and may increase this frequency if their libido is strong. However, it is crucial to avoid artificially suppressing sexual desire.

2. Pay attention to fitness and beauty.

　　Middle-aged women may benefit from regular exercise such as running, playing table tennis, badminton, or doing aerobics. Appropriate attire can make one feel younger and generate positive and joyful emotions.

3. Improve and adjust sexual lifestyle

　　First, switch roles. Whenever there is a physiological need, the woman should actively send sexual signals to the man and take the initiative to be intimate with him. Doing so will help increase the man’s sexual interest and arouse his sexual desire.

　　Secondly, during sexual intercourse, there should be ample caressing. Both partners should take sufficient time to kiss, hug, and caress, including touching the genitals. This can prolong the time of each caressing action and change the rhythm and intensity of the caresses, thus laying the foundation for achieving orgasm.

Thirdly, it can change sexual positions. Most middle-aged people start to gain weight, and the increase in weight can change the traditional male-on-top female-on-bottom sexual position, such as the side-lying position or female-on-top male-on-bottom, but the change of position requires both partners to explore and experience.

4. Pay attention to keeping the genitals moist.

　　Middle-aged women often experience decreased sexual function and insufficient vaginal secretions, which can lead to itching, burning sensations, dryness, and pain during intercourse. Applying medical petroleum jelly or contraceptive cream to the genitals of either the male or female partner before intercourse can help prevent these discomforts.

　　In addition, it is worth mentioning that middle-aged women may also experience abnormally strong libido due to certain diseases such as pituitary gland disorders, gonadal disorders, and mental illnesses. This should not be confused with a “second honeymoon”.

5. Regularly engage in “sexual exercises”.

　　Try some muscle exercises, such as intermittently stopping urination during a count of 10 before continuing. Additionally, you can improve control by forcefully contracting the penile muscles while working at a desk or driving.

6. Improve physical fitness

　　People with better physical health generally last longer during sex. Therefore, fundamentally, it’s essential to exercise and pay attention to nutrition. Some people say that eating things like three-whip whips is very effective, and that might have some effect. However, its psychological effect is greater than its physiological effect. Improving overall physical health is the key.

　　Influenced by traditional Chinese thought, women are often perceived as passive in sexual matters. This passive acceptance often prevents sex from reaching its full potential. In reality, sex is a partnership, requiring cooperation, not a one-sided affair. Therefore, men need to master certain techniques of seduction to arouse a woman’s initiative and make sex more fulfilling.

7. Start from the “head”

　　Perhaps many men, when getting into the topic of sex, will start by kissing a woman’s lips, breasts, and other areas. Actually, good sex should start from the “head.” A woman’s hairline is a psychological erogenous zone, highly sensitive to external stimulation.

8. Focus on attacking the back.

　　When a woman’s breasts and intimate area are on full display, we often overlook her back. In fact, stimulating the back can bring women pleasure. Furthermore, because the back has many nerve endings and areas prone to pressure buildup, proper massage can relieve this pressure. Of course, the massage should be done with moderate pressure, using your fingertips. We can also use our lips to leave kisses on a woman’s back, which can help her relax and eliminate any resistance to sex.

9. The Divine Skill of Touching Fingers

　　Sex isn’t just about stimulating the breasts and genitals; fingers and toes are also areas that shouldn’t be missed. When we gently kiss or suck a woman’s fingers, she experiences incredible pleasure.

10. Avoid the hard and choose the “soft”

　　Treat women gently, and you’ll reap unexpected rewards. Besides sensitive areas like the mouth and breasts, many other parts of a woman’s body crave gentle caresses, light kisses, and even breaths.

　　These areas include the back of the knees, the inner sides of the arms and thighs, and the back of the neck. We can use our fingers to stroke downwards in a straight line to stimulate these areas, which can arouse a woman’s sexual desire, especially in the area from the thighs to the calves.